I belong to a sikh family from my parent’s side and got married into a hindu Punjabi family.There has never been a custom of fasting for one’s husband on my parents side,more commonly known as karwa chauth here.But after i got married, i had no problem in respecting to my husband’s family customs and traditions.I kept the fast for the first 2 years of my marriage starving myself unwillingly.
The third year,just a few days before karwa chauth. I was diagnosed with gastroenteritis.So had strict instructions from my doctor to not stay empty stomach for more than 2 hours.I had to skip the fast.After this incident my husband was sweet enough to get me a gift for karwa chauth without me fasting for it.i told Rahul”u dint have to get me such an expensive present,i dint even fast”.He said” i don’t give u presents because you fast,it’s just another reason for me to buy u gifts”.And we mutually decided that i wont fast from now on considering health is more important than anything.Like “jaan hai toh jahaan hai” thing.
India is a country where people blindly follow stuff.I do not mean to disrespect anybody but yes its a fact.Girls follow their mothers or mother in laws tradition without even knowing the actual reason behind it.its because they have grown seeing their parents do this,so they follow the same.There have been myths created with so many stories to follow and also dreadful consequences if u don’t do the same.I have always failed to understand that what does a wife’s fasting for a whole day from sunrise to moonrise have to do with their respective husbands life expectancy?like seriously!
I again don’t mean to offend anybody.But your husband was living life perfectly before marrying you and would have been doing the same even if he dint marry you.Now a days you see couples fasting together maybe to reduce the guilt that some men carry that their wives have to fast alone.life expectancy is more in a lot other foreign countries than in india.They are not even religious countries.They dont have women fasting for their husbands.Just more educated and advanced.A marriage works when u have respect for each other and a heart full of love,not when a voice in ur head is shouting “have some food right now or u might pass out”.
Its high time we all should understand that these things are actually just another reason to oppress women maybe.I dont know.Not too sure.But maybe.Still, unfortunately we still have a long way to go.I respect those who do it willingly and also who would do the same out of pressure.I just got lucky,hope u get lucky too sometime soon.